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Loving Crazy Makers At Christmas

Liquid Church
Dec 17, 2023

How will you respond to the Crazy Maker in your family this Christmas? Will you respond with outrage or offense? Or will you be someone who gives the gift of love in this season?

Everyone has a crazy maker in their life. It’s someone who puts you on edge. It could be their words or behavior—their tone, or sarcasm, the way they make everything about themselves. These are the people that always cause drama or play mind games. They insult you but then gaslight you and they leave you second-guessing yourself and wondering “Am I going crazy?” 

So how do we possibly love these crazy makers in our lives? Let's look at 4 different types of love as laid out for us in the Bible passage, Luke 6:32-36:

Love A- The type of love you extend to someone only if you receive it first. Think of it like this: I scratch your back, you scratch mine.

Love B- The type of love you extend first, hoping to receive something in return.

Love C- The type of love that doesn't expect anything in return. This is selfless, sacrificial love.

Love D- This is supernatural CRUCIFORM love that God demonstrated by loving his enemies! 

Love D is ultimately the type that we're aiming for. As difficult as it seems, it's not impossible! Here are 3 practical steps you can use this Christmas season for loving the hard-to-love crazy makers in your life.

REFUSE TO BE OFFENDED 

You don't need to be offended because when people are insulting it reveals their character, not yours! It's not about you. There are plenty of things we should be offended by such as social justice issues. But when it comes to relationships, we ought to follow the advice of Proverbs 12:16, "Fools show their annoyance at once, but the prudent overlook an insult." Emotional and spiritual maturity is largely determined by how you treat those who mistreat you. Step over the offense and and then look behind the behavior. 

DON'T WAIT FOR AN APOLOGY TO FORGIVE THEM

Resentment is like drinking a bottle of poison and expecting the other person to drop dead! Hanging on to offenses only hurts you. Christian forgiveness is different from the world’s version of forgiveness. The world says forgive and forget. But forgiving doesn’t mean forgetting it happened—you may always remember. But it means you stop holding onto the hurt and put it in God’s hands. Even if they don’t apologize. Jesus said, “Blessed are the merciful, for they will be shown mercy.” Matthew 5:7

ALWAYS TAKE THE HIGH GROUND 

You can’t control what other people think or say about you. But you do have 100% control over how you respond. And you can be better and respond with grace, love, kindness, and humility. That’s what pleases God and it’s of great worth in his sight. Romans 12:14 says, "Bless those who persecute you; bless and do not curse." This includes the people who irritate, annoy, criticize or try to control you! In verse 18 it goes on to say, "If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone." The truth is that reconciliation is not always possible, because you can't control someone else's response. But, our job is simply to obey God and then leave the rest in His hands. 

Think about this: It’s easy to love those who are lovable. But real love is when you love the unlovable, which is ultimately the life-changing message of Christmas! That God gave His Son to a world that had turned its back on Him! He didn’t just declare His love for us, He demonstrated it. He didn’t just tell us what love is, He showed it to us in the person of Jesus. The best part - it's a free gift! 

ADDITIONAL RESOURCES:

For more encouragement, support, and tools to equip you, we encourage you to check out these additional resources:

🔶 MESSAGE: To watch the complete message from Liquid Church's New Series, Advent - Week Three, "Loving Crazy Makers at Christmas," Click Here

🔶 ARTICLE: We compiled 10 Bible Verses About Christmas to help you worship Jesus. We pray that these Bible verses will help you meditate on the wondrous moment when God entered our world to make things right. Click Here

🔶 MESSAGE: Pastor Nithin Thompson teaches us to use wise words to bless others and not burn others in this message on Proverbs. Click Here